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2007年12月01日

你能从犯错误中学到什么 - [杂七杂八]

没有人喜欢犯错误，但是任何人都会不时地犯错。如果你能从错误中正确吸取教训，它们就会驱使你进步。
同时，你必须认识到犯错本质上是自我进步，所以不要被内疚和自责淹没。
下面分析一下我们能从错误中学到什么：
真诚地道歉（Apologise with Dignity）
如果你犯了错，伤害了其他人，那么你就应该向人家真诚道歉，并保证类似的事情不会再发生。真诚的道歉能够修复别人对你的信任。
如果你不道歉，或者看上去很不乐意，那么你冒犯的人会以牙还牙。如果你的道歉是真诚的，他也许会原谅你。
当面道歉要比通过电话、Email有效得多。然而，一旦你已经道过歉，就不要老是对同一个错误没完没了地道歉，道歉后你该干什么还干什么。有的人一遍一遍地向别人道歉，这样别人也会觉得别扭。
不要成为完美主义者（Don’t be a Perfectionist）
如果你在生活中老是害怕犯错，那你可能一辈子都会碌碌无为。犯错本身并没有什么伤害，它是你成长的一部分。你承担的责任越多，你就越有可能犯错。
如果你觉得有必要付出任何代价来阻止自己犯错，这可能会成为你害怕风险的心理障碍。
所以，如果你犯错了，不要把头缩起来。
不要浪费时间为你的错误辩驳（Don’t Waste Time Trying to Justify Mistakes）
不幸的是，试图为自己的行为辩护是我们的天性。
当你犯了错误的时候，总是先去责备其他人。
“对，我把车开进你家院子，但这都是我的同伴的错，是他一直和我说话分散了我的注意力…”
如果你已经犯了错，那么对方不太可能感兴趣听你的辩护。
我们为了维护自我，努力去证明自己是对的，但是，有的时候，你确实错了。你只需要简单地说一声：“是的，我错了。”
明白为什么会犯错（Understand Why The Mistake Occurred）
有多种原因能够引起犯错。为了避免重复犯错，你需要理解下面的这些原因：
例如：你可能用生气和轻率的口气和别人说话。这里的错误就是“说不和善的话”。
但是，是什么首先让你生气的？
也许你很疲倦了，或者你正在忙一些和自己无关的事情。
如果你犯错是因为你确实很疲倦，那么你应该努力得到更多的睡眠；
如果你是因为压力太大，试着让自己和紧张的工作分开一会，然后找一些让自己放松的方法。
避免重复犯错（Avoid Repeating Mistakes）
你应该避免对犯错误有负罪感，但是同时，你应该下定决心从错误中学习。
如果你总是重复同样的错误，这表示你没有从错误中进步，并给自己和别人造成了一边又一遍的“痛苦”。
通常，错误是由坏习惯引起的。
想要避免犯同样的错误，你就必须改掉这些坏习惯。这需要你仔细的思考和坚持不懈的努力来改变自己的思维方式。
只要改变了坏习惯，你就能够很快避免犯同样的错误。
犯错也是学习的机会（Mistakes are Opportunities to Learn）
从自己的错误中，你能够学到智慧，并加快自我的进步。因为想要成功就需要冒险，犯错对于成功来说也是很重要的，你可以把犯错看作是迈向更好人生的基石。
How to Learn from Mistakes
Nobody likes making mistakes. But, unless you want to go through life as a complete recluse, you are guaranteed to make one every now and them. If you learn from mistakes correctly, they can propell will you forward.
You must also realise that mistakes are an essential part of self improvement. Don’t be overwhelmed with guilt and regret, analyze how you can learn from them.
Apologise with Dignity
If you’ve made mistakes that harm other people, it is important to offer a dignified apology. Be clear that it was an unfortunate incident that will not be repeated. A good apology can go along way to restoring trust.
If you don’t apologize, out of embarrassment or unwillingness, the offended person will hold it against you. If your apology is sincere, the other person is likely to forgive you.
It is more effective to apologize in person, rather than through a curt email. However, once you have apologised, it is mistake to repeatedly say sorry for the same mistake. Some people keep apologising over and over again. This becomes irritating. It is better to sincerely apologize once and then move on.
Don’t be a Perfectionist
If you go through life afraid to make a mistake, you’ll spend most of your life doing absolutely nothing. There is no harm in making mistakes, it is an essential part of going forward. The more responsibility you take on, the more likely you will make mistakes.
If you feel the need to avoid mistakes at all costs, it becomes a psychological barrier to taking risks. If you make a mistake, don’t retreat into a shell.
Don’t Waste Time Trying to Justify Mistakes
Unfortunately, it is our natural instinct to try to justify our actions. When you make a mistake, theinitial reaction is to blame someone else.
“Yes, I drove my car into the wall, but it was all my partners fault for distracting me with her incessant gossiping…”
When mistakes are made, the boss is unlikely to be interested in justifications. We justify mistakes for the sake of our ego. Sometimes it is best to say, very simply — yes, I made a mistake.
Understand Why The Mistake Occurred
Mistakes occur for various reasons. To avoid repeating them, you need to understand the underlying reason.
For example, you may have spoken in anger and haste; the mistake here is to say unkind words. However, what led you to be angry in the first place? Perhaps you were chronically tired, or perhaps you were nursing an unrelated grievance. If you make mistakes because you are permanently tired, try to get more sleep; if you are permanently stressed, look at ways to relax and detach from the stress of work.
Avoid Repeating Mistakes
You should avoid feeling guilty about making mistakes, but at the same time, you should make a resolution to learn from them. If you repeat the same mistakes, it shows you aren’t making progress and causes repeated suffering.
Often mistakes are caused by bad habits. To avoid making the same mistakes you need to break these bad habits. This requires careful consideration and sustained effort to change your way of thinking. However, the sooner you change your habits, the sooner you will avoid making the same mistakes.
Mistakes are Opportunities to Learn
From your own mistakes you can gain wisdom and accelerate self-improvement. Mistakes, because of their relationship with risk taking, are essential to success. The important thing is to view mistakes as a useful stepping stone to a higher reality and better outlook on life.
当天完成任务的15个技巧
原作者: Scott H Young 译者: MetalDudu
1.清理自己的计划表。
2.早起一点。
3.做好计划表的收集。
4.对结束一件任务有清醒的认识。
5.先做难做的事。
6.远离外部干扰，关掉手机远离网络会更高效。
7.注意休息。
8.休息与计划协调。
9.避免高负荷工作。
10.奖励自己。
11.衡量要做的是否值得。
12.合理饮食。多喝水少吃食物，但要保持足够能量。
13.注意锻炼。锻炼是必要的，但过量会适得其反。
14.提前做好准备。把与计划相关的东西事先准备好。
15.合理安排时间，不要过于劳累。

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